Why bad comments are (sometimes) good (and how to learn from your failure)

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You have heard it many times. The fact that someone talks badly about you only means you’ve got something they’re jealous off which undoubtedly means you’ve succeeded in life. In fact it means you’re better than that person, right? Why else would they bother talking about you at all. That reasoning never set well with me and I’ll tell you why. I’m a true believer in rational thought and seeing things as bluntly as possible – because the simplest possible solution is usually the right one, as math teaches us. So if someone keeps receiving negative feedback and keeps convincing himself that he is in fact a great person who others see wrongly, high chances are he’s not the person he thinks he is and others aren’t the problem, he is (or she). 

Whenever you post something online and whenever you expose yourself to public – you open a huge pool of possible criticism. Sometimes those critics are positive and sometimes they’re negative. Sometimes they’re simply rude and other times they make you feel like you’re the most special snowflake in the universe – the only rule is, they’re diverse as are the people posting them. So what can we learn from that? Well what is true is the fact that if people are open to commenting you –as if you weren’t there- means that they do perceive you as some sort of public figure or celebrity. The closer you are to someone, the less chances are of them commenting you honestly or directly. People are just like that sometimes, they depend on recognition and appraisal from their peers so they wouldn’t want to hear those critics back. They don’t want reciprocation because that would only lower their dopamine levels and make them feel – well, sad at least. Whereas with celebrities there really isn’t any reciprocity, right? I mean it’s not like Kim Kardashian or Donald Trump will ever respond to you. No, as far as you’re concerned, those aren’t real people at all. One of the facts bloggers opinions are valued as much as they are is precisely the fact that they’re –not- celebrities – no, they’re perceived as a bridge between ‘real’ people and those too high up the social scale to be considered real (though they really are, too). So what can we learn from that? When someone comments your blog posts negatively, unless he’s a maniacal sociopath, high chances are he/she is seeing you as someone who would never respond back to him or engage in a conversation with them as their friends were. In other words, he really sees you as successful. What does success really means? Well a large part of success is your public image or what others see you as. That’s why people hire PR officers, to help them spike that image up. So yes, in a way, being treated negatively online if you’re a blogger probably does mean you did accomplish something.

But.

It doesn’t mean those comments are there to be ignored. It doesn’t mean they’re untrue. In fact, whatever your readers or your audience thinks of you or your work is precisely the sort of thing you should focus on. Unless you’re a narcissist and are willing to destroy yourself through denial – criticism can be very indicative and helpful. If 9/10 people tell you that you use too much makeup or that your images are blurry, they’re probably not haters, they’re your opportunity to learn and grow. 


Čuli ste to mnogo puta. Sama činjenica da se o vama govori loše bez iznimke znači da imate nešto što ta osoba nema i na što je ljubomorna tj. znači da ste u životu uspjeli. Zapravo, znači da ste sigurno bolji od te osobe, zar ne? Zašto bi inače pričali o vama uopće. To rezoniranje mi nikad nije u potpunosti sjelo jer volim racionalnu misao i gledam stvari (koliko mogu) onako kakve one jesu – najjednostavnije rješenje najčešće je ono najtočnije kako nas je naučila matematika. Tako da ako neka osoba konstantno prima negativne povratne informacije i stalno se uvjerava da je on zapravo odlična osoba koju drugi pogrešno vide, velika šansa je da on nije osoba kakva misli da je i da drugi nisu problem, on je (ili ona).

Kad god nešto objavimo online i eksponiramo se nebrojeno širokoj publici, otvaramo i velik bazen mogućih kritika. Nekad su one pozitivne, nekad negativne. Nekad su samo bezobrazne i nepristojne, a nekad vas čine najsretnijim osobama u svemiru – jedino pravilo je da su raznolike, kao i ljudi koji ih postaju. Što možemo naučiti od toga? Istina je da ako nas ljudi komentiraju na način kao da mi nismo tamo da nas vjerojatno doživljavaju kao nekakvu javnu ličnost. Internet općenito pojačava te razlike i pomaže u prividu udaljenosti od drugih. Što smo nekom bliži, manja je šansa da će nas otvoreno negativno komentirati. Zašto? Jer ljudi su takvi, ovisni o mišljenjima njihovih prijatelja i kolega, tako da nipošto ne bi voljeli te kritike primiti natrag. Ne žele reciprocitet jer to bi spustilo razinu njihovog dopamina i učinilo ih nesretnima u najmanju ruku. Dok sa poznatim osobama reciprocitet niti ne postoji. Kolika je šansa da će nam Kim Kardashian ili Donald Trump odgovoriti na hejtersku poruku? Zapravo, dok ju šaljemo, odgovor ni ne očekujemo. Zato što odgovor ne očekujemo, zato ju i šaljemo. Takve osobe niti ne doživljavamo kao stvarne ljude. To je jedan od razloga zašto su blogerska mišljenja na većoj cijeni ponekad od onih koja daju razne poznate osobe. Blogere se i dalje smatra stvarnim osobama ili bar nekakvim mostom između stvarnosti i svijeta slavnih. Što dakle možemo učiti iz toga? Ako nas netko komentira na negativan način, osim ako je manijakalni sociopat, vjerojatno nas ne percipira kao nekog sebi bliskog. Vjerojatno nas gleda kao nekog uspješnog, nekog tko je predaleko da bi uzvratio. Što uspjeh uopće znači? Pa velik dio uspjeha je upravo naš javni imidž – ono kako nas drugi vide. Zato ljudi i zapošljavaju PR stručnjake koji pomažu u bildanju tog imidža. Tako da da, ako vas publika ponekad ošamari negativnim komentarom, vjerojatno je to zaista znak da ste nešto i postigli.

Ali.

To nikako ne znači da su ti komentari tu da ih ignoriramo. Ne znači da nisu istiniti. Zapamtite to. Zapravo, što vaša publika misli o vama i vašem radu upravo je ona stvar do koje vam najviše treba biti stalo. Osim ako patite or narcizma i uništavate se kroz nijekanje istine – kritike su vrlo korisne i indikativne. Ako vam 9/10 ljudi kaže da koristite previše šminke ili da su vam slike premutne, vjerojatno nisu hejteri, oni su vam prilika za rast, razvoj i učenje.

Voljela bih čuti i vaša mišljenja o ovoj temi tako da pozivam sve da se uključe u komentiranje ovdje i na FB stranici :)

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My top 5 last-minute Christmas gift ideas

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Picking out gifts for your loved ones is always a challenge so I decided to prepare a post with a few of my favorite things (five to be precise) for giving out this holiday season. All of the gift ideas mentioned below are a good fit for both males and females so I didn't include any makeup / girly stuff because I know that's always the easiest thing to buy but in case you want to try something a bit different this year, this list will help you make a decision.

Birati darove za najdraže uvijek je izazov tako da sam odlučila prirediti jedan brzinski post u kojem navodim neke od najdražih stvari koje volim poklanjati/darivati drugima u ovom blagdanskom vremenu. Svi navedeni darovi podjednako će odgovarati muškarcima i ženama ili se barem meni tako činilo kada sam slagala ovu listu. Dakle, krenimo:

1. Perfumes 

Whether you're having to pick out a present for your boyfriend or best girl friend, your mother or grandfather, a high quality perfume is always a good choice. If you think about it, no one likes to spend that much money on themselves, yet everyone needs it and loves to smell nice. You only have to be careful and research the taste of the person you're purchasing the gift for because scents are a delicate thing and we differ when it comes to our preferences in them.

Dobar parfem uvijek je lijep poklon, bilo da se radilo o najboljoj prijateljici, dečku, baki ili roditeljima. Jedna je od onih stvari koje si uvijek želimo, a rijetko sami sebi kupujemo, stoga mislim da bi ste s ovim mogli razveseliti zaista svakoga. Kada bolje razmislite, nitko ne voli trošiti toliku količinu novca na nešto što će sam sebi kupiti, a opet svi volimo lijepo mirisati. Jedino je kod ovakvih poklona potreban dodatan oprez s obzirom da nam se ukusi u mirisima uvelike razlikuju i bolje je istražiti preference osobe koju darujemo nego da pogriješimo. 

2. Books

The truth is, you can't give a book to just anyone, some people are hardcore readers while others simply don't like it and would perhaps prefer for you to take them to the movies instead. But, every bookworm you know will probably love it and you can't go wrong if you know their taste. Books are also not that expensive to buy and will probably help the person remember you whenever they read that piece.

Istinu govoreći, knjige baš i ne možemo pokloniti svakome odnosno neće im se svatko jednako radovati. Iz mog iskustva, ljudi im se ili jako vesele ili su indiferentni prema njima, stoga bi bilo dobro znati čitalačke navike osobe koju darujete prije nego se odlučite na ovakav poklon. No, ako pogodite, to je jedan od najboljih darova koje možete dati jer ćete osobi pokloniti ne samo nešto materijalno, već i sjećanja, uspomene koje će ih asocirati na vas kad god se sjete ili ponovno pročitaju tu knjigu.

3. Manicure sets

This is also something no one will probably buy for himself but we all need it – a good manicure set which will serve its purpose and that's easy to carry around on trips. 

Setovi za manikuru su još jedna od stvari koje si sami rijetko kupujemo, a uvijek nam trebaju - posebno oni kvalitetniji koji su lako prijenosni na eventualnim putovanjima. 

4. Fun gifts that you can play with

By „fun gifts that you can play with“ I'm considering all of those weird, peculiar things you might get for someone and they will be able to use it more than once in a fun way – for example Neocube, a cube made out of small but powerful magnets you can rearrange in any way you want and make different shapes. Computer games are also in this category, and what's more important – you can play them together with this other person. Also, unique collectible chess sets and any other table top game you can imagine. 

Pod ovom sam kategorijom zamislila bilo koji proizvod s kojim se moguće igrati - bilo da se radilo o kompjuterskim igrama, društvenim igrama koje su odličan poklon za prijatelje jer ih kasnije možete koristiti na zajedničkim druženjima. Ovdje se mogu naći i unikatni setovi za šah ukoliko mislite da bi druga strana bila zainteresirana za tako nešto ili bilo koji high tech / mechanic gadgeti. Meni se osobno jako sviđa Neocube, kocka sačinjena od vrlo jakih magnetnih kuglica koje možete preslagivati na razne načine i od njih slagati različite oblike. 

5. Experiences 

People are usually cheap when it comes to spending money on their own luxury experiences – very few of us will treat ourselves to a massage or a full body depilation, a spa weekend and so on. But it's a perfect gift, especially if you know that the person has had a rough time lately, it will probably make them feel a lot better than any material gift might.

Iskustveni pokloni su nešto s čim će svatko biti zadovoljan jer vjerujem da su rijetki oni od nas koji će si samovoljno uplatiti masažu / manikuru / odlazak u welness, a opet zaista bi nam dobro došlo to dobiti zar ne? Tako da smatram da je ovo jedan od savršenih i sve popularnijih poklona u zadnje vrijeme, a kategorije su raznovrsne - od ulaznica za kino i kazalište do spa-vikenda u nekim toplicama.

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Catrice Kaviar Gauche eyeshadow palette - Iris Sauvage

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Catrice limited collections are always interesting and some of the most creative ones in the beauty industry. Kaviar Gauche collection has already been surpassed by two new ones, but I wanted to take some time to test out the palette properly. Other than that, this collection contained a glam black makeup bag, a golden cream eyeliner, a highlighter and an array of lipsticks and nail polishes. 

Catrice limitirane kolekcije uvijek su mi zanimljive i jedne od najkreativnijih koje se mogu naći u drogerijama. Kaviar Gauche kolekcija inspirirana je luksuzom, zlatom i baršunom, a danas ću recenzirati paletu sjenila pod nazivom Iris Sauvage. Iako su kolekciju već zamijenile druge dvije na policama dućana, htjela sam s vama podijeliti dojmove nakon pravilnog testiranja jer mislim da zaslužuje mjesto na blogu. Osim ove palete, kolekcija je sadržavala i glamuroznu crnu torbicu za makeup, zlatni tuš za oči u kremi (koji može biti i sjenilo), highlighter i velik izbor lakova i ruževa za nokte.



Iris Sauvage consists of three matt and one pearly shade and they're all designed to help you make an en everyday, but still luxury makeup look. Shades itself are nameless but they all look very pretty inside a luxurious looking box that is probably one of the best ones I've had when it comes to makeup palettes - it is black with golden velvety engravings on top. As far as the pigmentation goes, I'm not too happy, the darker shades are rich in pigment but the lighter ones are barely visible, and that's a shame because they all look so pretty inside the box. Unfortunately, this palette is no longer available for purchase, so I included some pictures from the current Catrice collections in this post so you can see them and maybe catch them before they're gone.

Iris Sauvage sadrži tri mat i jednu sjajnu nijansu, a sve zajedno čine savršen kvartet za kreiranje svakodnevnih, ali glamuroznih makeup lookova. Nijanse nemaju posebne nazive, a upakirane su u divnu crnu kutiju s ugraviranim baršunastim zlatnim reljefom. Mislim da nikad nisam imala ljepšu paletu što se pakiranja tiče. Pigmentacija joj nažalost nije jača strana - tamnije nijanse su dosta dobro vidljive, ali ove svjetlije, posebno ova najsvjetlija, jedva su primjetne, što mi je stvarno žao jer su u kutiji stvarno lijepe. Nažalost, paleta više nije dostupna za kupovinu, ali sam zato stavila u post dva videa sa nadolazećim / trenutnim kolekcijama koje je Catrice lansirao na police drogerija - ako vam se što svidi, požurite da i to ne nestane. :) 

Limited Edition - Victorian Poetry (November 2016 - January 2017)



Limited Edition - Prêt-à-Lumière (December 2016 - January 2017)



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LUXURY HOLIDAYS WITH Biotherm - Blue Therapy Cream in Oil

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Finding a good quality face cream is always a challenge, especially during winter time when our skin is dry and needs additional care. As I mentioned in my previous posts, my skin got a lot dryer as I turned 25, and I guess that's the biology's way of telling me I'm getting older. However, my skin doesn't tolerate greasy and heavy creams well. I was fascinated with Lancome's Visionnaire Nuit night cream and I liked Aqualia Thermal by Vichy for daytime. 

Pronaći kvalitetnu kremu za lice ponekad je pravi izazov, a posebno u zimskim mjesecima kad nam je koža suha i treba dodatnu njegu. Kao što sam spomenula i u prijašnjim postovima, koža mi je postala puno suša otkako sam navršila 25 pa pretpostavljam da mi to biologija suptilno poručuje da starim. No bez obzira na to, moja koža ne podnosi teške i masne kreme od kojih zapravo dobijem kontra efekt, već mi pašu one na bazi laganih ulja ili vode, kao što je odlična noćna Visionnaire Nuit (Lancome) ili dnevna Aqualia Thermal (Vichy).


Biotherm's Blue Therapy Cream In Oil* is basically a day version of aforementioned Lancome's night time miracle. It has a gel – to – oil texture which is really special and makes it easy to apply. Also, you won't be needing much of the product for it to be spread evenly across your face. It soaks in fast and leaves a nice plump and soft to touch feel afterwards. It keeps my skin hydrated throughout the day and makes applying foundation extra easy. I also like the smell of this cream – it's orange in colour and smells like fresh citrus fruits which really helps wake up my skin in the morning. But what I love the most is the instant repair effect I got after using it for only a short time – my skin immediately lost its dry patches, became plumper, fuller, brighter and healthier looking. I can only look forward to all the positive effects I will get after longer usage. It's also supposed to help with wrinkles but since I don't have any yet, I haven't noticed the effect.

To sum it up: A deeply nourishing but light face cream that will give your skin brightness and rested appearance, for normal to dry skin

Biotherm Blue Therapy Cream In Oil* krema zapravo me podsjeća na dnevnu verziju gore spomenute Lancome noćne magije. Ima teksturu koja je između gel i uljne i zapravo je vrlo posebna na dodir, brzo se upija, a ostavlja za sobom svilenkast, mekan osjećaj. Vrlo ju je lako razmazati po cijelom licu i služi kao dobra podloga za puder. Sviđa mi se i miris ove kreme, jer mi je to i inače važna komponenta, a kod ove kreme on je citrusni, podsjeća na svježe ubrane naranče što je zapravo vrlo dobro i korisno kod jutarnje rutine njege jer me uvijek uspije nježno razbuditi i pripremiti na sve dnevne zadatke koje imam pred sobom. Ono što me se najviše dojmilo su brzi pozitivni rezultati na koži koji su bili vidljivi već nakon par dana korištenja – koža mi je postala mekanija, bez suhih dijelova, nekako svježijeg izgleda i svjetlija. Zaista se veselim dugoročnim rezultatima jer mi zasada krema odlično odgovara i preporučila bih ju svima sa srednje suhom kožom koja je sklona mašćenju u T-zoni i koja je osjetljiva.

Zaključno: Krema s dubinskom njegom koja nije preteška za kožu i koja joj pruža svježinu i odmoren izgled, za normalnu do suhu kožu

*This product has been sent to me for reviewing purposes as a PR sample / Proizvod mi je ustupljen na recenziranje kao PR uzorak

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LUXURY HOLIDAYS WITH Lancôme – La Vie Est Belle

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One of my favorite months of the year is December and last year I dedicated a whole post series to one brand, so I was thinking of doing something similar this year as well. However, this time it won't be a brand focus, but a series of posts that will capture the essence of luxury brands such as Lancôme, Giorgio Armani Beauty, Biotherm and so on. Since this is a season of gift giving after all,  I thought you might like it. 

Prosinac mi je jedan od najdražih mjeseci u godini (kao i svima vjerujem), a prošle godine sam u ovom mjesecu posvetila cijelu seriju postova jednom brendu. Ove godine, radit ću nešto slično, a to je da ću kroz narednih mjesec dana predstavljati luksuznije brendove kao što su Lancôme, Giorgio Armani Beauty, Biotherm i druge. Mislim da im tokom godine nisam dala pažnju kakvu zaslužuju, a i radi visoke cijene često ih ljudi doživljavaju kao nedostupne, no u ovo predbožićno vrijeme darivanja, svi smo voljni i potrošiti nešto više, a uz razna sniženja oko nas, čak i ovakvi brendovi postaju naizgled prihvatljivije cijene. Ipak, ako ste pobornik visoke kvalitete proizvoda, onda znate da se nekad zaista isplati uložiti više i dobiti kvalitetnije rezultate te veću sigurnost i trajnost kod korištenja proizvoda.


The first product I will be reviewing is this famous wintery delight – Lancôme's La Vie Est Belle perfume*. There isn't a single Lancôme fragrance that I don't enjoy, they all usually contain white musk, pink pepper or roses, some of my favorite ingredients. La Vie Est Belle is special – it's a perfume that encapsulates the beauty of living, in all it's glory. It has a gourmand & elegant tone which is perfectly described on Fragrantica: „The concept of this fragrance is centered on the idea of natural and simple beauty, freedom from conventions and the choice of once own vision of happiness. The fragrance is a kind of outlook on life, inspired by joy and pleasure in small things.“ Unlike any other Lancôme perfume, this one contains iris as the key ingredient, accompanied by orange blossoms and jasmine. It also contains vanilla, patchouli and pralines which many people recognized as main notes. I personally think it smells sweet, warm and it definitely reminds me of toffee candy surrounded by flowery and berry notes. I think it's a perfect perfume for holidays, for winter time in general, because it is so rich in its elegance, yet not too strong at the same time. Longevity of La Vie Est Belle is one of its main benefits, you won't be needing additional spraying throughout the day. However, it might be a bit too strong for some, so keep in mind when giving it as a gift to others.

Prvi proizvod kojeg ću recenzirati je parfem koji kao da je potekao iz zimske bajke i kojeg već mnogi od vas koriste u svojoj dnevnoj rutini – Lancôme La Vie Est Belle*. Gotovo pa da ne postoji Lancome parfem kojeg nisam voljela pa tako ni ovaj nije iznimka – uvijek sadrže moje najdraže sastojke: jasmin, ružu, ružičasti biber, bijeli mošus. La Vie Est Belle je uistinu drugačiji od ostalih mirisa iz Lancôme asortimana i stvarno posebno dobar – vrlo je elegantan, spada u kategoriju gurmanskih mirisa koji su po mom ukusu savršeni za zimsko doba. Ideja parfema je u slavlju svakodnevnog života kojeg možemo uz mali dodatak dobrog mirisa učiniti čarobnim: „Koncept ovog mirisa vrti se oko ideje prirodne i jednostavne ljepote, slobode od konvencija i izbora vlastite vizije sreće. Miris predstavlja vrstu pogleda na život, inspiriran srećom i užitkom u malim stvarima.“ Pun Miris

Za razliku od ostalih Lancôme parfema koje posjedujem, ovaj sadrži iris kao glavnu notu, kojeg vjerno prate narančin cvijet i jasmin. Sadrži i vaniliju, pralinu i pačuli koje mnogi navode kao one sastojke koje su najviše osjetili u parfemu. Meni osobno miriše vrlo slatkasto, damski, profinjeno, osjetim miris karamele/praline koju okružuje lagan cvjetno voćni miris bobičastog voća. Mislim da je radi svega ovog savršen parfem za blagdane jer je zaista bogat i raskošan, a nije prenametljiv kao neki njemu slični – i dalje sadrži tu jednu poletnu, romantičnu notu kakvu samo Lancôme zna proizvesti. Trajnost mu je vrlo dobra, nema potreba za popravljanjem tokom dana, a ukoliko ga nekome poklanjate, pripazite na one koji ne vole jače parfeme, no s obzirom na univerzalnost mirisa, ne vjerujem da nekome ne bi bio po ukusu.

*This product has been sent to me for reviewing purposes as a PR sample / Proizvod mi je ustupljen na recenziranje kao PR uzorak

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